Getting Past Your Looks And Creating Attraction, Part 2

submitted: Mar 31st 2009 | by: JosephMatthews | Total views: 8 | Word Count: 479 | | |

In the first part of this article, I discussed the issues of your looks and women's criteria of attraction. Here are two more myths to discuss!

Myth #3 - Women See What Makes Us Insecure

Understand that we know ourselves better than anyone else ever will. We are able to pick out every single flaw there is about ourselves - our big ears, big nose, weak chin, receeding hairline...

No matter what it is, we see it!

And because we see it, we assume everyone else does too. But the fact is, most people aren't very observant, and unless they specifically look for something to criticize you about, they're not going to care about your insecurities, whatever they may be.

A lot of guys try and dismiss their insecurities by calling attention to it, as if to try and "diffuse" whatever it is they feel is ugly about them. But all this does is draw the woman's attention to this insecurity, and only at that point do people notice it.

And insecurity is always UNattractive.

It's important, in every situation, that you always focus on the good stuff about you, instead of your shortcomings, and have the positives outshine the negatives.

Myth #4 - Good Looking Guys Have It Easy

This is a huge, prevalent myth that most men believe. It's just assumed - if you are good looking, you'll attract good looking mates.

Good looking guys have their own struggles with women. Sure, being physically attractive helps them initially, but in the long run, they have the same issues other men have.

Attraction is about amping up the emotion that a woman feels when she's around you, and linking it to you in such a way where they only way she can get those feelings back is to be around you.

If a man matches a woman's physical type, she'll gravitate to him because those features make her feel good. But if the guy is boring, or a jerk, or just not compatible, those feelings will go away.

However, if you take a guy that the woman maybe isn't initially physically attracted to, and then have him make her experience feelings of fun, excitement, and pleasure - she WILL become attracted to him eventually.

This is the fundamental concept of attraction - when you make other people feel good, they will want to be around you.

You don't have to be a good guy to make women feel good! You just need to know how to interact with them.

But the second aspect to this equation is physical attraction.

This is where, in addition to making people feel good, you also turn them on.

This is where the aspect of seduction comes into play.

When you begin to lead a woman down the path of attraction, even if you don't look like Brad Pitt, she's going to begin to see you in a whole new light - despite any of the shortcomings you may think you have.

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